Hard Days.

I’ve agonized over this first post. I’ve put it off, gone round and round about what I should say and procrastinated long enough. Tonight I decided to sit down and just put something down. Anything down.  I thought about telling you some history about Maria Montessori, or maybe write about my decision to teach at a Montessori school. I contemplated giving you a list of Montessori terms to help you navigate through all the educational jargon out there. In the spirit of being transparent, I decided to write about my day. My very hard day.

I have an almost three year old who no longer takes naps. She’s exhausted and needs them, but would much rather take trips to the bathroom, sing songs in bed and play with her teddy bear. She’s been on a floor bed since the beginning, but this is the first time I have ever struggled with keeping her in bed. Once rest time is over, the afternoon quickly deteriorates and hits a major low right around when I’m making dinner.

I try to remain calm and collected. I attempt to be comforting and reflect her feelings. I am firm when I need to be and show her love when I know she needs it. But alas, I am human. Nothing stings more than  the look in her eyes when I raise my voice or use a tone that is unkind with her.

I have a prayer written by Maria Montessori hanging in my pantry as a daily reminder of my work with my children and others. Here is the excerpt I needed to see today:

To manage children by the pleasantness of methods, with intelligence and affection and never by condemnation and fear.  May love and understanding teach  me.

I don’t have any answers for you today that I don’t need to hear myself. Take deep breaths, keep your voice quiet, continue to smile and show them love. Remember they are growing and need you to be stronger than their behavior. I’m new to navigating these uncharted toddler waters and sometimes feel like I’m drowning. Hang in there and keep swimming.

6 thoughts on “Hard Days.

  1. Paige Holloway says:

    The children in our lives can teach us so very much about the needs we have to parent from the inside out. We can only begin to understand the crying needs of our frustrated toddlers and stomping, not- sleeping rompers when we are quieted ourselves. When we are quiet, we then can look at the healing that needs to happen in our own selves and address those as we serve the needs of the child. In that way we are realizing that their cries and frustrations are usually a push they have from the inside that beckons them to finish and accomplish some new developmental task. As their needs collide with ours, we become frustrated and feel inadequate. It becomes essential for us, as a child’s guide and caretaker, to listen behind their frustrations to the call they have within themselves to grow and complete themselves. It becomes apparent when we realize that when their needs interfere with ours that ours have probably been left unmet or unresolved. We must get our needs met not through the child but in God, in relationships, in our marriages. When we heal they can grow.

  2. Megan lizotte says:

    “Remember, they are growing and need you to be stronger than their behavior!” That is the best reminder!!! I’m writing that down and keeping it in plain sight! Totally struck a chord with me today! Love that you’re blogging…consider me a loyal follower my fellow Montessori momma! 😉

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