Confessions of a Second Time Mom

I thought I was prepared.  I talked to my daughter about her new baby brother and bought her books about being a big sister.  I read articles about including my firstborn in everything from diaper changes to laundry.  I even talked to friends with more than one child about what life was going to look like with two.  I was so focused on getting her ready for her new role as big sister, I didn’t even think about my new role.  No one prepared me for the guilt.


After we settled in at home and all of the relatives left, reality hit me…hard.  I found myself snapping at my daughter, feeling irritated and on edge.  I guess I could easily blame sleep deprivation or hormones, but it was something else.  We had  sweet moments and I loved our new family of four, but somehow any small request rubbed me the wrong way.  I often felt annoyed helping my daughter with things I knew she could do herself.  What kind of mom was I?Then it dawned on me.  I resented her for taking me away from my new little bundle.  When my daughter was born, I had all the time in the world to sleep when she napped, sit on the ground and watch her during tummy time or rock her while singing a lullaby.  Now I found myself juggling diaper changes, snack time, a screaming infant, a toddler needing toilet help, making dinner, multiple naps and keeping my house clean(ish).  I was craving more one on one time with my baby boy and she was constantly interrupting.  I thought I was giving her plenty of attention, but never stopped to think that she might be craving some one on one time from me. Continue reading


Soup in July

Despite the heat index of 109 today, my daughter requested soup to eat. Well, 4:30 rolled around and  I had zero plans for dinner. After fighting the strong urge to just call Papa John’s, I decided to whip up this easy, toddler approved meal. I’m not sure which she loves more, how delicious it tastes or helping me make it.  My mom made soup like this when I was little and it is still one of my all time favorites! I included the recipe for my light, veggie-packed  soup at the bottom of this post.

As with any Montessori lesson, preparing the environment is key and cooking with your children is no different. By giving them the tools and instruction they need, you set them up for success and your overall experience should be a happy one. Here are some tips to keep in mind:

  • make sure your child has a clear work space
  • use a Non-Slip Cutting Board to ensure everything stays put
  • cut veggies in half or quarters to keep them from rolling around
  • zucchini and squash are perfect for beginners because they slice so easily
  • use child friendly cutting tools like this Wavy Chopper(seriously one of my favorites!)
  • Yes those are affiliate links, but look at that beautiful crinkle-cut zucchini!

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The floor bed

Trust me, I’ve heard it all.

Mary Ann's Room

 I love your nursery, but where’s the crib?  Well, there isn’t crib and let me tell you why. Without crib bars, the baby sees an unobstructed view of their room and starts to visually map their surroundings. A mirror runs along one side of the bed so that they can see themselves and connect their movements with their reflection. Also, by eliminating the crib, you’re knocking out one of the most expensive pieces of nursery furniture. That’s a win in my book.

Wait…your baby sleeps where?!? The baby sleeps on a mattress on the ground. Sounds crazy, right? Maybe the idea of a floor bed doesn’t seem so off the wall to me because I slept on one thirty years ago. I opted for a crib-sized mattress for my daughter, but in retrospect, wish I had gone with a twin or full sized instead. That way, she could have used the same mattress for a longer period of time. Continue reading

Hard Days.

I’ve agonized over this first post. I’ve put it off, gone round and round about what I should say and procrastinated long enough. Tonight I decided to sit down and just put something down. Anything down.  I thought about telling you some history about Maria Montessori, or maybe write about my decision to teach at a Montessori school. I contemplated giving you a list of Montessori terms to help you navigate through all the educational jargon out there. In the spirit of being transparent, I decided to write about my day. My very hard day.

I have an almost three year old who no longer takes naps. She’s exhausted and needs them, but would much rather take trips to the bathroom, sing songs in bed and play with her teddy bear. She’s been on a floor bed since the beginning, but this is the first time I have ever struggled with keeping her in bed. Once rest time is over, the afternoon quickly deteriorates and hits a major low right around when I’m making dinner. Continue reading